2020 New Years Word 

For the last 3 years, I have been chasing a word that would be my word for that year. I started this when I was going through a transformative time in my life. I was divorcing out of a terrible relationship with a narcissistic person. If anyone knows what it is like to be in that kind of relationship they can understand that it can take a lot out of you and that making that step to change is like a phoenix coming from the fire. It’s true, that is what it felt like to me. I had lots of hurts that I was dealing with and not just from the divorce but from others around me. The people who think they are deemed to be the ones to point out all mistakes as if they don’t have any or never will. 

My word that year was HEAL 

When I chose my word I think of what that word looks like in 4 areas of my life. I have 4 because as I mentioned before I have a photography business www.KanellaPhotography.com   You may not have a business but yours could be anything it could be family or work. Mine consisted of: 

1. Inner Personal Development 
2. Financial 
3. Health
4. Business

I then break down my goal into 4 quarters. I feel like if I can break it down this way it becomes more quantifiable and it is much more achievable and I don’t get so discouraged if I mess up. I can work in that area in the next quarter better if I messed up or didn’t do it like I was planning. 

So with my word being HEAL that year I had claimed my quote or mantra for the year.

“Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.”

Financially I was needing to heal.

With my Health I need to heal.

My Business needed to go through change and grow.

But my biggest and most important to me is always my Personal Inner Development goal. That year the word Heal was so important. I was choosing to make the personal change that I needed to move past the damage. Everyone must realize that staying angry, hurt or being the victim is letting that thing control you. You have a choice to stay that way or make a choice and take the right steps to walk away from it to be a better version of yourself. 

I wanted better of myself, I wanted to heal and move on, I wanted to slay the monster that had distorted my view over the years. Narcissistic people do that, they distort your view of life, yourself and your reality. YOU ARE THE DRAGON THAT CAN OVERCOME THEM.”

Out there be monsters, In you there is a dragon. 
If you know of monsters and if you know of demons, then just remember they know of you too. 
And they fear you because you are the dragon that can overcome them.”
Nikita Gill 

The word I had in 2019 was Focus 

The word I have for this year is Simplify.

I would love to hear about your goals and dreams for the year. If you have a word for the year I would like to hear about how you plan on implementing it into your year.